Other than the erratic behavior and grandiose lies, I believe Rebecca Bloomwood (Isla Fischer) from Confessions of a Shopaholic is a true role model! Imagine if we all learned from someone else’s mistakes and never got our own hands dirty. How convenient. But really, Rebecca was bizarrely funny and scarily relatable! We all secretly wish we were the original Girl in the Green Scarf. The whole concept was genius!
Rebecca showed us the beauty in shopping and how it could never let us down. Mannequins are our stylish besties who always keep us current, sales are our crazed-coupon-loving-mothers who refused to buy anything full priced, they’re our family!
Rebecca taught us how our relationships with shopping was more convenient and awe-inspiring than one with a man. Yep, the girl was onto something. But she also taught us how excessive shopping could ruin our lives.
We’ve all been there where we reason to ourselves why buying that cocktail dress that hugs our curves is a necessity. We stand in the dressing room for a good twenty minutes and this is justification enough why it actually wasn’t an impulse buy. If you’re living pay check to pay check you’ve heard how much money you can save by avoiding this.
Some of the tips sound like romantic notions…. The same way people get body withdrawals when trying to quit smoking or drinking, shopaholics have a similar affect. Our minds can’t shop wondering what’s in stores, our hands won’t stop typing in our favorite shopping websites, in extreme cases our bodies physically lead us to malls, boutiques, and even thrift stores. You need treatment and here are ways to ease off your addiction slowly in an organic way.
Time Reveals All
We quietly say this mantra when we’re in doubt in relationships or the future of our careers, how about with shopping? If you see something irresistible make a mental note how many are left in your size and take lots of pictures. Challenge yourself to wait as long as you can.
What are you waiting for? To see if you really want it, or if it will go on sale, and how much you can resist the urge to spend when you have more important things to lose money on. You’ll be surprised at how well you can hold out. And after a couple of weeks if you can’t stop imagining yourself in that floral leather jacket (yes, I’m trying to fight my own demons right now) and all of your necessities are dealt with then splurge!
Respect the Return Policy
How many times have you heard someone screaming at a sales associate because they weren’t properly informed on the return policy. You might might write her off as extra or unreasonable, but what if she needs that last $200 to pay for rent or a car repair? Don’t be this woman! If impulse buying is your middle name then only buy from stores that refunds you! Leave the store credit and exchanges for times you can actually afford to say farewell to Benjamin Franklin.
Doggy Treat Yourself
Those days when your parents give you money for getting good grades or tending to your responsibilities are long gone. You’re an adult. You’re supposed to be doing these things. Deal with it! But that doesn’t mean you can’t reward yourself when your being an awesome adult. As you set aside money for your savings, set aside some money to spend too. Three great things will happen. 1- You can shop and justify your purchase however you’d like. And will have a money that doesn’t interfere with the important stuff 2-You’ll become a better saver and learn to stop living paycheck to paycheck. 3- You’re savings will have a savings (in case of emergencies)
Want It vs. Need It
Make a list of the things you want and then a separate list of the things you need. It’s vital you know the difference. Here’s an example:
Want It: Beats headphones, Marc Jacobs computer case, Kate Spade perfume, Russian Red MAC lipstick, Floral Leather Jacket
Need It: New winter coat, black tights for work, bigger purse to hold laptop,
Notice anything? Well first, the The Want It list is longer than the Need It list. We always want more than what we have. Second, the Want It list very specific. You saw these things and have been lusting ever since. The Need It list is vague because these are mental notes you’ve made during every day struggles. Your black tights ripped and you need new ones for work. You’ve outgrown your coat or it’s not protecting you from the cold.
Don’t Shop Angry
They say you aren’t supposed to drive when upset and the same goes for shopping. Don’t shop when you’re angry, or sad, or annoyed, or any emotion that impairs your judgment. Your happiness should not be dependent on outside forces and genuine happiness actually isn’t. It temporarily makes you smile but when reality hits you still have to deal with whatever made you angry, sad, or annoyed. Rebecca would be proud!
Don’t Get Peer Pressured
If you’ve got friends who pressure you into spending money you don’t have then avoid them altogether. Stay away from friends who influence you to impulse buy. If they speak Prada or any other fashionable language, chances are they will not be the people to convince you not to buy it. Only go shopping with friends who will remind you of waiting and saving.
Hope these tips helped! What do you do to stop yourself from impulse buying?